Cyan421 wrote:about a month ago I put in for a promotion at my DEAD end job because the wife and I have our first son on the way. It felt like driving the nails into the coffin of my musical life.
aw, man! don't worry! everybody gets freaked out by having a kid
take comfort in the fact that plenty of us music types have gone before you and, many are right here - still recording and making music. it's all good.
But, i understand how you feel. i've been home with my kids since they came along - twin 3 1/2 year old girls, and a 16 month old boy.
everybody and their mother's uncle canyou how hard it is to have a kid in ways you'd understand, but one can't really understand the joys until they have a child of their own. it's new emotional territory. everybody knows what it's like to hear a kid screaming bloody murder in a restaurant. everybody understands how annoying a kid melting down can be, or imagine how stressful and tiring it can be never getting sleep, but watching your kids be-bopping down the street on a sunny day,window shopping with "mom" on mothers day is something profoundly satisfying. it can't articulated.
it can be damn hard to be a parent, BUT - it's as
good as it is hard. it evens out.
"the dream" doesn't have to die, but it probably has to change. i know that might sound like a rocker-dad cop-out, something to soothe myself with. maybe so, but i'm damn happy.
as someone else mentioned, a supportive mate is hugely important! i still manage to sneak away to my space at least for a few hours, a few nights a week. i still play throughout new england, and until recently, i was the music editor for a local arts rag. the wife is a school teacher, and so i'm trying to book my summer solid in order to get my chops up and earn a few bucks. i'm hoping to be decent by the time my last kid hits school.
in any case, it can be done!
*end of rant*
cheers,
Jon
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